Episode 25: Acceptance in Alopecia and Moving Your Mount Everest

Today’s episode of the podcast is about Acceptance in Alopecia and Moving Your Mount Everest

KEY TAKEAWAYS COVERED IN THE PODCAST

• What is it to truly accept your diagnosis of having Alopecia.

• Having this diagnosis is not the end of the world, it doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about it.

• The same thing with failure and setbacks, these don’t mean the end of everything.

• You can choose from many options and alternatives in combating the diagnosis of Alopecia.

• The only thing that holds us back is the limiting beliefs.

• How refocusing on your body and health, you would be able to accomplish a lot of positive things.

HIGHLIGHTS YOU CAN'T SIMPLY MISS

• Find the solution for it and take action 01:25

• The natural route is the only route to true healing, to true hair growth 01:35

• Rejection many times allows you to be redirected in life 03:30

• Acceptance with alopecia comes from accepting the diagnosis 06:19

• That task that you failed is leading you to a bigger and better situation 07:23

• There always is another way to do better 08:41

• The only thing that sometimes that holds us back is our limiting beliefs 10:45

• Once you know, better, you do better 13:33

• In order to do that, in order to get those results, you have to course correct, and you have to reevaluate everything 15:05

• You can allow something to define you, or you can allow something to create a challenge 15:59

• There's multiple factors that go into healing alopecia and reversing it 16:27

• When things start to not function correctly, that's when you need to refocus 18:02

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Transcription

Awaken to hair growth. Awaken to hair growth because there is, possibility to get your hair back. Awaken to hair growth because we're not told that we're able to conquer and overcome alopecia. Awaken to hair growth because I want to be a positive light and beacon for you because I've healed my alopecia and now I help others do the same with different types of alopecia, men, women, children, of all ages, of all races and ethnicities.

Hey everybody and welcome back to the Alopecia Angel podcast, awaken to hair growth. Today, I wanted to talk about acceptance in alopecia, and it's gonna be very, very different from the acceptance that your doctors, that society and, that potentially alopecia organizations and forums have told you, except that yes, you have a diagnosis of alopecia. You have a diagnosis of hair loss, however, take control with what you can control. Take control with what you can control and have faith in that.

So just because you have a diagnosis, doesn't mean it's the end of the world, doesn't mean that you can't do anything about it, doesn't mean that there's no hope, doesn't mean that you're doomed for this type of life or that you're doomed to go hair loss, to be hairless and to have hair loss for the rest of your life. No, that's not it, accept the fact that you have alopecia and then find the solution for it and take action.

And if you know me by now, if you follow me, you know that the holistic route is the only route. You know, that the natural route is the only route to true healing, to true hair growth. Long-term long lasting hair growth and health, that's really the only option. And when it comes to acceptance is to also accept the fact that what around us is not necessarily always for us. For example, as a parent, you know, I need to teach my little one that not everyone is going to like him, that not everyone is going to want him included into certain groups, that maybe he won't fit in and that's okay, that's very much okay

And you, going through alopecia potentially, you feel awkward doing your regular activities, you feel more shy, potentially more reserved, potentially more recluse in terms of doing your normal activities or finding things that light you up again and that's okay. There's a time for everything and right now the time is to heal. The time is to be more aware, the time is to accept and move forward.

So for example, if you lose a job, if you fail the class or fail the grade or did bad on the task or if you didn't get the promotion or if it took you a little bit longer before you were able to graduate, or any of these instances where it seems like a failure, where it seems like a setback, where it seems like it's holding you back, accept the fact that's the situation currently, but that doesn't have to be the end all be all, that doesn't have to be your only option.

So, for example, if you failed the test, that means that you didn't answer some of the questions correctly. That means that there's still more to learn, maybe more to memorize, maybe more to understand completely thoroughly so that you can pass the exam appropriately, right? In terms of not getting the job, rejection many times allows you to be redirected in life.

And this happens in dating, this happens in jobs. I mentor many times while I was in corporate and I was in corporate many years ago for more than 20 years and during my time in corporate, I loved giving back and I love mentoring young girls in college and I did through an organization and I was mentoring them in my own industry.

And so when I mentor them, I told them, you know, getting the job at a fantastic company that I was working at didn't just fall from the sky. I didn't necessarily work for it either, but at the same time, I was also rejected before I got that exclusive job before I got that amazing job with that amazing company.

And it took me a while to get that job. It was a bad recession. It was around the crash of, or the aftermath I should say of the financial crisis of 08 or 9 and I had just gotten out of my master's and it was really hard for me to find a job. And it took me a while, more than six months to find a job. And I kept getting interviews, but not passing the first interview. And I kept, you know, I’m  trying to figure out like, what's going on? you know.

This wasn't my first go around, I had been in corporate already for more than 10 years after getting my master's and or before getting my masters and so I knew you had an interview I knew how to dress, I knew how to speak like something was up though. I wasn't getting the job that I wanted and I just couldn't find it. So then you start to think outside the box and that's what I did.

And so, instead of just applying to my local area, I started applying out of state, out of the country in different industries, in different locations and low and behold, I got the job and it was out of state because in my state, no one was hiring and it was really competitive and for one reason or another, it just, it didn't happen. And so then I moved out of state, which launched this more bigger, better career than I could have ever hoped for.

And many times the rejection is the redirection and I hear that a lot and now I understand it looking back. I understand it looking back, not just in my career, not just in dating, but I also see the rejection to the redirection in health with alopecia and many times, you know, we're moving forward or looking to scale and to grow in all areas of life. And we kind of put ourselves on the back burner a little bit with health and we don't take what we think we know and apply it, or even what we don't know

It could be hindering us like I talk about with blind spots, but the acceptance with alopecia comes from accepting the diagnosis, but not identifying with it. It comes from taking on what has happened and creating a new paradigm and creating a new perspective for you and yourself and others around you.

So for example, okay yes, you're diagnosed with alopecia, but at the same time you can overcome it. You can choose not to take the medications. You can choose to focus on your health. You can choose to go the holistic and natural route. You can choose alternative therapies. You can choose so many different options just like if you get laid off or fired or let's say they just shrink the company that you're at, what are your options? Well, your options are unemployment. Your options are to look for another job. Your options are to go back to school. Your options are to maybe take a break and live off of your savings. Your options are so varied. 

There's many options. You don't have to look at it like a failure. It's more of like a redirection and potentially, you know, that job where you got laid off from, or that task that you failed is leading you to a bigger and better situation. And yes, when I was diagnosed with alopecia, I accepted it in a way where, in the same way where I accept hey you know, the sun's gonna come out tomorrow.

Yeah okay, I get that. Sun's gonna come out tomorrow, whether it's full sun and blazing hot, or whether it's overcast and cool, like it is today, but the sun is still out. So I accepted it like I knew, okay I have alopecia, but I also accepted the fact that I wasn't gonna give up, that I wasn't gonna allow it to define me, that I wasn't going to allow it to put a stamp on my forehead and tell everybody, hey I have alopecia.

I was gonna do something about it. I was going to take what I could control and control it, tweak it like a little machine and that's what I did. I tweaked myself in all different ways and all different factors to create ultimate health, to create and reverse my alopecia, and I know it's possible for you, and I know it's possible for your child, and I know it's possible for everyone, it really is.

Now just like it's possible to get the promotion. Maybe it's possible to pass the test and to graduate and to do many things. Potentially there's a workaround and there always is another avenue. There always is another way to do better. There's always alternatives and when I was looking at healing, my alopecia, you know I started where everyone else started.

I started going to the doctors. I started going to the dermatologist, but at the end of the day, I knew that wasn't the long-term solution. I knew that that wasn't going to help and if anything, it was going to deteriorate my health further and so I stopped and I'm happy I did. Now granted, the road to full recovery took three years, not a short amount of time, but for living the life that I did, for going through the motions and not realizing the harm I was doing to myself and to my health, alopecia forced me to focus on my health and all my hair.

And now I'm stronger because of it, I'm healthier because of it and I've upgraded myself on all levels because of it. And so I'm at a better place today because of alopecia in terms of my health. I'm at a better place today because of alopecia in terms of my purpose. In terms of my life's mission, because I mean, I could work at corporate all day long and do well and thrive but at the end of the day, I wasn't a hundred percent satisfied. I wasn't a hundred percent happy. I wasn't a hundred percent just, wasn't a hundred percent satisfied with the mission, so to speak.

And now I love helping others, I love giving back, I love doing what I do and had it not been for a diagnosis, had it not been for the acceptance of alopecia, had it not been for the moving forward with alopecia, the being able to heal and get better, heal not just myself but my clients as well. I wouldn't be here and I know you can do this in less time. I took three but I know you can do this in less time and with the right approach, with the right mindset, you can do this. Anyone can do this, and it's been proven over and over and over again with different types of alopecia and with different ages from people from all over the world.  And so the only thing that sometimes that holds us back is our limiting beliefs. And I say this, I talk about this here and there, but yes, limiting beliefs hold you back.

And so, accept the fact that you have alopecia but then do something about it, don't let it drown you. So for example, with a breakup, many times, people drown themselves with a breakup and they hold on to that vision that they had of themselves before breaking up with their loved one, before breaking up with their partner and I understand breakups are painful. I've been through them myself, but at the same time that next person is gonna be so much better. That next person is gonna be worth this pain and I can say that personally as well, because of breakups in the past, I'm in the best relationship possible today.

And I know it's perfect for me. Through the pain we're able to achieve better than what we expect. Sometimes, like I said, the rejection is the redirection and so think of alopecia, like a redirection towards your life, a redirection towards a focus on your health, a focus on what you need, a focus on what you want.

And I think even COVID taught us that a lot too. It had a scratch in our heads, right? If life is really so fleeting and if life is so precious where we can just like, catch some sort of flu and then pass away so quickly, what is it that we want to do today? What is it that we want to accomplish? What is it that we want to have no regrets about? What is it that we want to, how we want to live in and how we want to go about doing it, to make us fulfilled, to make us happy, to have a sense of satisfaction, but you can't do any of that without your health.

And COVID taught us that lesson, but alopecia is also teaching you that lesson right now. What is it that needs to change? What is it that needs to happen for that change? And I will say, let me add on to acceptance of humility because alopecia also humbled me in many ways, and it also humbled many of my clients. Many of my clients are personal trainers. There are nutritionists, they're clinicians, they're pharmacists, they're in the health and wellness industry.

And yet they are also humbled at the fact that they have alopecia. They're also humbled at the fact that something's not right and then when you have another health and wellness professional, look at them, evaluate them and start pinpointing all the things that they're doing wrong. They're like you're right and you know, they're holding on to certain things and you're like this, isn't helping you. This isn't helping the cause, you know, better and maybe they don't, maybe they do, I would hope they do.

But many times they don't because there are also blind spots and so once you have someone else evaluate you, then you're like, okay, this needs to change and then I can start to see the hair growth. Then I can start to do better and again, once you know, better, you do better. And I think being humble and coming back to earth and understanding that there's so much more that we need, that we need and we can, and we should be learning, it's a humbling experience.

Alopecia was a very humbling experience for me. Cause I thought I was healthy. I was diagnosed, you know, when I had a personal trainer, when I was very fit, the fittest ever in my life. When I was at my peak, when my hair was at its most amazing and yet I was still diagnosed with alopecia. I thought all my ducks were in a row. I thought I was just on top of the world, healthy but there was still cobwebs, you know, that needed to be cleaned up.

There was still things that were still there and not to say that I'm perfect. No, hardly still more room for growth, but at the same time, you know, staying open-minded, staying vigilant and being curious has led me down to this path and focusing, refocusing my priorities, refocusing on my health and I think this is a huge takeaway because again, a lot of my clients are in that age bracket from 20 30’s, to their fifties, sixties.

So it, whether you're in the beginning of that bracket or towards the end of that bracket, either way, you want the rest of your life to be super healthy, you want the rest of your life without the nagging aches and pains, you want the rest of your life was full head hair. And in order to do that, you have to course correct. In order to do that, in order to get those results, you have to course correct, and you have to reevaluate everything. And if you are still sitting on your high horse, thinking that you are, you've done everything and you know everything, then you're not allowing alopecia to work its magic in you because it is a humbling experience.

It is a let's fix this, we can fix this situation and it's not just alopecia, it's any autoimmune disease. There's many autoimmune diseases that you can reverse naturally and holistically. So the choice is yours, really to accept it, to allow it to define you, to allow it to create this new identity for you or to say, okay, yeah, I have alopecia and I'm working on it and I'm progressing and I'm making all the changes, all the baby steps that I need for better health.

You can allow something to define you, or you can allow something to create a challenge because that's what alopecia is. It's a challenge, it's challenging you to upgrade yourself. It's challenging you to become better. It's challenging you, pushing you towards better health because with the sounding alarm it means you need to refocus and realign yourself with that health. Something's not aligned. Something's out of balance and it could be one thing. It could be two things, three things, four things, five things.

There's multiple factors that go into healing alopecia and reversing it and keeping it there for good, right? Because if you've had alopecia in and out, in and out throughout months, years, decades, that's also not a good sign. Alopecia disease is not supposed to ebb and flow out of you. Disease is not supposed to be there, period.

Now, if it's there, it's there, you can heal and reverse, but ideally you want to live life disease free. You want to live life, being able to use your whole body, use your whole mind, use your whole spirit, use your whole emotions and have everything be imbalanced in harmony like a perfect orchestra. See, when you listen to a symphony, you can hear if somebody or some group of instruments are out of tune, and that's the same thing when you have disease in your body, you know, whether it's something so small, like eczema or psoriasis or acne to hair loss or to Hashimoto's or to graves' disease or to lupus or to anything else. That's a sign, it's a ringing alarm that you need to refocus.

Kind of like when a baby cries, when a baby cries, you need to attend to it. Something's wrong, they need a diaper change. They need to be fed, they're tired. They're giving you an alarm. When your car alarm goes off, you need to go out and see, is someone trying to steal it, is someone trying to rob it, is someone trying to break in, what's going on? Same thing with your house, the alarm goes off. Let's see what's happening, there's an intruder.

Well when things start to not function correctly, that's when you need to refocus on yourself, on your body, on your health and we teach you how to do that. The Hair N Heal program is opening up here shortly. So if you are interested, come and join me on the free training that I will be offering and learn how to reverse and heal your alopecia in four easy steps, because that's what it is. It's four easy steps to reverse and heal your alopecia. 

I will have the opportunity to have you opt in and so you can join us for that free webinar, link will be in the show notes. Thank you so much. I look forward to talking to you next time. Take care.

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