Episode 73 - 8 Things Parents Should Know About Doing the Hair N' Heal Program With Their Children

This episodes is all about why doing the Hair N’ Heal program with your children can be beneficial for both. Some of these advantages include avoiding isolation and learning to do things on their own later on life. When parents do the program with their children the whole family gets healthy together.

When I say children I mean as young as 8 months to as old as 40. Because believe it or not, I have parents who contact me for their 35 year old, for their 40 year old and this becomes my first thing to address.

When you are doing the program for your child let's say that they are over the age of eight years old they need to be involved they really need to be involved so that they can learn the lessons needed. I understand that you may feel like your baby is your baby and will always be your baby, and I totally get that as a parent myself. But at the same time, we're doing a disservice. If we're doing everything for them, we're doing a disservice. If they're not learning the lessons with us, if they're not understanding all the modules week by week, everything that we need to take in, etc.

So, what I do encourage is that they are in the kitchen with you, and that they are learning everything with you, and they're going through the program with you. Because then they're able to do things on their own later on in life. So, when they're 16 when they're 25, when they're 30, they can revert back to all the lessons that they learned and be able to do it on their on their own.

This is what we want, we’re not walking for them they need to learn how to walk on their own and this is important because mom and dad are not always going to be there and so whether they go away to college or not, it's still possible to do the program. I’ve had many college students do the program in the dorm only choosing foods from the cafeteria. It's all possible to really modify this and make this happen.

Where there's a will, there’s a way and I've met very tenacious college students and high school students and elementary school students, and then of course, the smaller beautiful little toddlers that we love so much. This is possible at any age.

When you're dealing with kids who are are let's say, younger than eight years old, that’s a little different because they're still living at home of course, but they're still eating and having a routine and everything else of what parents say. Yes you are the role model, and yes I do encourage all families to do the program with the children and this way it's a win-win solution, because we are allowing the child to get healthy, but we're also improving our own health as parents or family, siblings and whoever else lives in the house.

At the same time we're also not isolating the child. This is key, you don't want to isolate the child and create separate meals or create a separate anything for them. You want everyone to do the same thing as much as possible. This is a family decision and we're all getting healthy together type of thing. Then no one feels left out, no one feels like they can't be doing this or can't be doing that, and that's important so that the child doesn't feel excluded at all but, rather included in everything.

Including the child as much as possible will give them the the keys to success now and forever, because once you heal alopecia, once you understand exactly you know how to mitigate how to control this, then you can be like me and not have alopecia and not think about it, and not let it come to bother you ever again. Even after covid, even after a pregnancy, or even after life events, because life will happen and so you always want to be on top of things and be in control so that this doesn't affect you at all and they can go ahead and have a regular normal childhood and enjoy life and be who they're meant to be with hair, with health and with everything possible at their fingertips.

Another thing I wanted to share is that learning and putting an action solidifies the learnings and outcomes. This is important because if they are doing the program with you and following along, then the learning is being solidified. It's it's almost like seeing the chemistry project ,you can learn about chemistry in school but until you do a project where some sort of liquid bubbles up and and creates like a little volcano and you do your science project, then it solidifies. Because the action is taking place, so it's not like you're just studying the information, but you're putting this into practice.

Same situation with history, if we're going to learn about government, then you learn about it in the books, but then you also maybe go to the state capitol or go to the capital of your state or country or Province and then you're able to really solidify it and say “Okay this is what this happened, and this is how this happened” In the same way, we want to solidify those learnings and give them the keys to success because that will make everything very solid for their Foundation from now and forever.

Another thing is you telling them what to do is not the best strategy, and that’s because many times, children rebel and I see the more rebellious children when they're teens. Maybe like from 11, 12 to 25, these are my most rebellious children. That age group understandably, so I was pretty rebellious at that age too but at the same time you telling them what to do is not the best strategy. Let's say you’re a mom, you’re dad and you’re doing the program for them, that’s not the best strategy.

If they're in that age group, the best strategy is for them to do it and for
 them to really take ownership of that, because most the time, children like to hear it from the expert, they like to hear it from me because I'm the one who has gone through alopecia, I'm the one who can connect with them in that sense, and I'm the one who can also relate to them. I’m able to put themselves at ease and I'm able to answer their questions because obviously, children have questions, we all have questions even as adults.

So, when it comes to our hair loss and when it comes to our alopecia, we want answers and so when you have a call with me, when you have either the group or the private calls with me and when I'm able to connect directly with your child then it's a beautiful thing, because they're connecting with somebody who's been there, done that, not just the mom or the dad.

They listen to Somebody outside of the mom and the dad right many times you know they'll do things begrudgingly but I even had a 17 year old who didn't want to do something or a couple things, even though he understood that they were good for him.

He understood that it was part of the program, but he just didn't want to do it because it came from his mom. But then, once he got on a call with me, it changed everything, because I gave him a better understanding as to why this was important and as to why this was important for him specifically. So, once he heard it from me, then he was able to say “Okay, you're right, I’m going to go ahead and do it”

Sometimes they don't want to hear it from you and that's kind of like the tough love that l, I’ve seen it so many times where we're having a call, let's say it's the parent and the child and they have their own questions, they ask me and then I give them the relief and the reassurance that they they're looking for in the answers that they need to hear.

From there they feel more motivated ,they feel more engaged, they feel more excited to keep going with the next steps and that's important. It’s important to connect with people who understand because when I look back in my own alopecia journey, I couldn't really
 talk about it to anybody, not to friends not to family, not to my mom, not to anybody, because no one understood, because no one had been there, because no one's losing their hair like I am. This is the situation when you can't find common ground with somebody you don't want to hear anything from them, not any of their recommendations you’re just like you don't get it.

If your child is experiencing that, it’s because they haven't found common ground, and so this is this is necessary to be able to to feel like you're on the right path and to see those results in less time. Ten times out of ten when I speak to children they are more motivated, resilient and want to go the extra mile. This is crucial because you can only do so much as parents. As parents we want to offer the world, we want to heal them, we want to take away the pain and suffering, we want to get them to hair growth, but at the same time we also need our children to follow the program and make the changes that are necessary and when they don't comply this is where the setbacks engage.

I actually have a former podcast episode, I believe it's number 17, where I have a mom and a 9 year old son which came to me with alopecia universalis and then he saw full hair growth in like six months. Actually it was like eight months, but it's only because the first two months he was cheating, he was eating candy and he was eating a bunch of stuff that he shouldn't be doing. So, once he finally said “Okay I'm gonna behave”, “Okay, I’m gonna follow this” and boom, it took him six months to go from zero hair alopecia universalis to full hair growth and so he the possibility for your child to heal when they comply, and they obey, and they are engaged. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. ¿Does that make sense?

They have to want it just as much, and I see this as children are getting older and older like they have to want it just as much as you parents and this is important because you can't force your 17 year old, your 18 year old to succumb to a program that they maybe are not engaged with maybe, they don't want to do it, maybe they don't even want to heal.

I had actually a mom, she did the program for her 22 year and she had universalis for many years, but they had tried so many things where the daughter was just so resentful that she gave up on life in many essences.

They had spent over 50,000 dollars on wigs, she had a boyfriend she was in college, she was doing well in college and everything but her boyfriend had never seen her without a wig. She never took off her wig except in front of her parents, but it was that type of thing where she just preferred to hide behind the wig.

There's a time and a place, you have to be ready for things, but then you also have to want it too. Again, you can't force a horse to drink, they have to want to do this as much as you parents want it for them. This is another difficult pill to swallow because as I know all of you listening to this, you would do anything and everything for your child, just like I would. But then, at the same time, we have to let them when it comes to a certain age. We have to let them make that decision, because if they're not going to want to do it they're not going to. That’s just the honest truth. So, it's best if you engage them and we can have a call so that they're on board, because once they're on board then everything is gonna flow easily and all the changes and results will come with a greater higher percentage of success, versus forcing somebody to do this and maybe leaving halfway through.

So, 10 out of 10 times when I speak to children, they are more motivated, they're resilient and they want to go the extra mile. Yes, I do have a knack for for speaking to young adults and young people because I I can relate. Again I've had the alopecia myself, I've dealt with the children and with parents of various ages but in a previous life, I also mentored college students and I get it. Being able to speak and find that common ground is a huge huge part of relief for them but it is also for the parents.

That's what the parents want. Parents want to see success and results, but it also needs to come from the child. Once they're at, let's say, 15 and over, their cooperation is definitely part of this. You can't do this on your own.

The next tidbit of information I wanted to share is that when parents do the program with their children the whole family gets healthy together therefore new habits are seen and understood as the whole family gets healthy together, versus isolating the one child.

I had touched upon this earlier, but many times I also see that a lot of the parents have health concerns, have health issues, they aren't the healthiest as well, and can also have room from Improvement. So, in this manner when everyone does the program, you not only support the child but then everyone's getting healthier. It’s such a beautiful thing to have everyone blossom together and even when partners do it together. Let’s say there's no children involved and it's just a husband and wife and one of them has alopecia. Then one does it and the other one does it too because you live in the same house and then all of a sudden you know everyone's healthier, everyone feels better, everyone is in a better mood and it's just it's one thing that rises all boats so to speak.

It's a beautiful thing when everyone gets healthy together because many times, when you have a child of alopecia I've seen maybe a good 75% to 80% percent of the time, the adults parents either one or two of them, or have other health conditions.

Not necessarily autoimmune diseases, but they also have little “age-related” issues but all these things are really about lifestyle So, those things go away too which is a great thing when it comes to children doing the the program. Yes, they can do the program whether they live at home, whether they live in a dorm, whether they go to college, whether they study abroad. It's all possible and tailored to the child and the family to make it simple and effective whatever the situation or scenario. It’s all possible.

Right now I have somebody in the program, where he lives in the dorm, but then he's going to move to South Africa for an exchange program, and so, it doesn't matter where you live or what the situation is with the child. It can always be transferred, it can always work with you wherever you go. It's just about the strategy on how to do it and I think this is a wonderful thing because it's always online Internet access only, so anywhere where you have internet you have access to the program and that's key to making this simple and effective for everybody.

The Hair’ N Heal program has helped children as young as 8 months, to children as old as 25. Plus, the sooner you address the alopecia and the hair loss, the sooner the healing and sooner they can go on to live their best life and childhood. Waiting or trying medications is not the way and we'll set them up for continued failure, frustration and issues. There is a lesson to be learned here and it's important to get to the root cause to move forward towards their best life, because that's what's waiting for them here.

Recently I've had a bunch of adults sign up who are being very proactive about it. One wants to get pregnant and has alopecia, and wants to heal before she gets pregnant which is a very smart thing to do. Because normally, when you have alopecia and you get pregnant, it only gets worse.

Then another proactive person who just joined said she had one spot and on that first spot she's like “Nope I want to heal us now and I want to do this the right way” I think this is such an empowering scenario for both of these ladies that I'm not helping and treating because once you get ahead of the problem ,then it doesn't have to bother you again. It's almost like once you fix the leaky roof, it's never gonna happen again because now you know exactly where it leaks from and where it leads. Essentially, in the program we're redoing the whole roof, we’re not just like fixing the leak.

So, in this situation, you're empowered for the rest of your life. You have the manual to move forward and I think this is the key lesson for children as well. Even for you parents, no one has given us this information no one is teaching us this, and this is why I do what I do. My parents didn't teach me this, no teacher, no doctor ,no dermatologist, no president of any country, no government official, nobody taught me any of this.

The fact that it can be learned, and it can be applied means anyone can do it. Anyone can do this, it can be learned, and it can be applied so that you don't have to suffer from alopecia ever again. That's priceless for me, it's peace of mind it's freedom in how I live in my choices, in my activities in wanting to be the best self, living my full potential. Believe it or not, but there’s so many emails that I get where the people tell me I don’t want to go to work, I don't want to go to school, I don't want to do my activities, I don't want to go to my swimming classes, or play sports or do this, or do that because of my alopecia.

They don't want to do many things, they don't want to engage in life because of their hair loss. This happens to children just as much as it does to adults. You become a shell of yourself, you become a hermit crab and even if you were an introvert, you become even more so. This is not living your best life, this is not being in your full potential and living to your full potential and if you're a parent listening to this, I know you want your children to thrive just like I want my child to thrive and we all want to thrive as well as a adults.

We need to empower our children by learning the keys to success so that they can put this behind themselves and say “Boom”, this is a Learning lesson these are the the steps I need to take and this will never ever happen again because that's what it means to have full control of your hair loss of your alopecia and in eight weeks you've got the answers to why this is happening and how to fix it. For 90% of you, you'll already see hair growth in less than eight weeks, and this is a beautiful thing because even for those of you who don't see it in eight weeks you'll see it in week 12, week 15, you'll see it once you continue to work on your blind spots, on the consistency and on implementing all those steps. It's that simple

I hope this has helped you because this has come up again and again with parents and as to why especially children listen to me more than the parents because they want to be involved, they want to be engaged, they want to understand, they want to, and they need to do this on their own.

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Thank you so much and take care.